Lesson #8 Every relationship is unique

I spent the whole Sunday evening having fun with my sister in AmCorp Mall singing and doing random crazy shit. The next day, at college, I seemed to have automatically adopted the same attitude I had on Sunday with my sister. Its as though the brain falls back to what was considered a successful attitude yesterday, and recycled the emotions and experience to be used when I'm with other people.

But this time, with less satisfactory results. I felt estranged, as though i couldn't connect with the others. It would appear that the brain automatically defines a comfort zone and assumes that it is the same when dealing with everyone else, which is a misleading assumption. What I should have done was to consciously tune myself to the new person's frequency, so that we can 'click', rather than adopting a comfort zone which was previously established with someone else.

Lesson:

1. Your relationship with ANYONE is unique only to the both of you. Nobody else can replicate such a relationship, and hence, what attitude was worked for dealing with one person will NOT work with a different person. Adjustments have to be made.

2. Always tune yourself to a person's very own special and unique frequency in order to establish meaningful conversations and build deeper connections with them.

3. People's frequencies may change over time, and you may have to retune things with them. Past experiences with that person should be used only as a guide, they are NOT to be relied too much upon.